In the past decade, a few terms categorizing relationships between young people have emerged such as: ‘talking’, ‘sneaky links’, ‘situationships’ or ‘casi algos’ (almost something). The increasing ambiguity surrounding modern relationships marks a stark contrast to traditional dating practices, that placed heavy emphasis on chivalry and courting.
The complexity of romance in Generation Z is heavily shaped by social media and digital influence. In today’s tech-based society, many relationships start and end through a phone. While access to a broader pool of romantic interests heightens potential for opportunity, some believe it also promotes unfaithfulness and lack of commitment.
Student views on Gen Z’s preference for a more technological style of dating vary. To many, it’s harmful for the development of relationships, but others applaud it as a reflection of the shifting culture that embraces open-mindedness and exploration.
Brandon Lopez, sophomore at The University of Texas at El Paso (UTEP), provides some insight into how technology affects the way Gen Z navigates relationships.
“[There’s] a higher chance of people being a lot more full of lust rather than love. A lot of people see not just social media influencers, but other people that they might have in their school, in their city, or in their state. [These people] are in some ways more attractive than their significant other, and that could cause a lot of insecurity for the person that you‘re dating,” Lopez said.
Social media’s influence has changed the way that most young people interact romantically. Liking stories has become synonymous with flirting, posting significant others is now mandatory, and interacting with others’ content has morphed into a form of infidelity. As the parameters of a relationship change with each app update, more and more young people opt for a bond with no real definition.
Brenda Vasquez freshman at UTEP explains what makes a relationship with no label different than those that require commitment.
“Casual is seen as something with no feelings, but as humans this is difficult. I think it’s entirely impossible to get to know someone without developing some sort of care for them. Casual to me is something both people know is short term and something that in the end will most likely hurt both parties. ‘Official’ is exclusivity and constant effort to see and love the other person. It’s a promise to care for someone on a deeper level; you’re putting yourself on the line to see where things could go,” Vasquez said.
Because young people are inundated with what seems like endless “options,” many find themselves distracted by social media, dating apps, and other forms of electronic connection. However, technology also provides greater opportunity for young adults to find each other in ways they otherwise wouldn’t have.
“Everything‘s more online. We have dating apps that people use, and we have people just meeting by chance on Instagram or Snapchat. I do think that plays a big role in the way people meet, and how passionate you are towards [one] another,” Lopez said.
The role that technology and social media play in modern relationships isn’t inherently positive or negative; rather, just like past generations’ relationships, depends on the perspective of the two individuals involved.
Leah Austin is a staff reporter at The Prospector and may be reached at [email protected].
