There are many reasons why people don’t go to the gym: a busy schedule, work, kids, laziness, but some reasons are uncontrollable, at least on one side.

For a woman, often times, our insecurities come from others’ lack of intelligence and manners.

A women’s experience at the gym should never be an uncomfortable one, but unfortunately it is for many women, myself included.

I wouldn’t go as far to say that at one point in my life I was a gym rat, but I did frequent the gym multiple times a week. I went because I cared about my health and about my physique.

I quickly realized that there were others at the gym who didn’t share my same mindset when they went to work out. Just because I am a girl and am working out and at times bending down to pick up weights or running around the track doesn’t mean that I am putting on a show for people to watch.

It genuinely bothers me when people check out girls and make them feel uncomfortable just for using the facility for what it is supposed to be used for.

I also hate the fact that when I bring this issue up to some people, the response is one that blames the girl because of the way she dresses at the gym.

In no way is it a women’s fault when someone disrespects her or makes her feel uncomfortable just because she is dressed a certain way. That is an entirely separate issue, but I know that the way I dress should in no way be an excuse to ogle me when I work out.

Now remember ladies that life is a two-way street and that just like people should be respectful and not stare inappropriately while you’re working out, you should make sure not to encourage it by motioning to them or accepting their invitations if they try to make a move on you. If someone is disrespectful, you make sure you stand up for yourself and address it.

Unfortunately, I let these experiences affect my usual gym routine, and slowly I stopped going to the gym and then just began working out in the comfort of my own home.

I am upset with myself because I shouldn’t let other people’s actions affect my life and daily routines.

I plan to make it a point to continue going to the gym and make sure that I speak up whenever I feel uncomfortable.

I feel like the inception of women’s gyms are offensive and are unacceptable. They exist because there is a market for safe havens for women who don’t feel comfortable working out at a unisex gym.

Women, learn from my mistake and don’t let the disrespect that others show you affect your health and your goals. Be you, love yourself and remember if you speak up for yourself, that could create change.

Amanda Guillen may be reached at [email protected].